Friday, May 14, 2010

When my 8 year old wants an extra dessert or something else not on the board, I typically say no. I say it with a smile. She doesn't need another fudgesicle and she isn't going to get one and my telling her so only hurts for a minute. She's fine.

I get the best results when I Mommy myself. When I simply say, No, you don't need that-- to another bite of chocolate, or the diet soda I want to quit, or a few of those Tostito chips that are, after all, whole grain, right? (Wrong. At least in the ways that count.)

Saying no when you're undernourished or starving is not really an option, unless you have some powerful agenda at stake. But I'm not undernourished or starving. I work plenty of treats into my life, food and otherwise. I'm far from deprived. So when I say no, I'm giving myself the same thoughtful treatment I take so seriously with my kids.

No.

It only hurts for a minute. I'm just fine.

10 comments:

  1. Maybe I need to start asking you before I put anything in my mouth. :-) Between the email lag and the out-and-out no, I should certainly get this weight moving the right direction again.

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  2. I think I need to put myself in time-out.

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  3. So true. None of us need it, we only want it.

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  4. This is a very good point! I'm great at telling my kids no, but it took a long time before I could tell myself no and mean it!

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  5. Very true, and I still sometimes have a tantrum when I tell myself 'no' LOL!

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  6. Absolutely! Occasionally, it doesn't work, but usually we can accept this, with maybe a little practice.

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  7. Why is it that saying no to a child when something is not good for them, is so much easier? If only I was that strict with myself.

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  8. that's a good mindset to have. keep that up!

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  9. Great blog and a good tactic...am going to try it. Thanks!

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